A Modern Orthodox wedding is full of ritual and tradition. It is a truly joyous time where the Chatan (groom) and Kallah (bride) not only commit to one another but also choose to connect themselves to our collective heritage and their Jewish future as a family.
There are a number of aspects to consider and decisions to be made during the planning stages. We recommend organising a meeting with Rabbi Gabi early in the process who will advise you of the various decisions that need to be made along the way. Our in-house Events and Programs Manager, Jackie Sher, is also pleased to assist with queries regarding the Call Up and ceremony.
The following outline the elements of a Modern Orthodox Jewish Wedding:
The Call Up
In Ashkenazi tradition the chatan is called up on the Shabbat morning prior to the wedding; usually a week prior to the ceremony. The reason for the timing is that traditionally the Chatan and Kallah don’t see each other for the week before their wedding so the call up often marks the last time they see each other before the Bedeken. In Sephardi tradition the Call Up is the week after the chuppah.
During the service the chatan is called up to the Torah. After the Call Up there is singing and cheering in celebration of the Chatan. In some traditions the women throw lollies as a demonstration of the wish for the couple to have a sweet and fruitful marriage. Other aliyot go to the Chatan’s family or close friends. At ARK Centre we invite the families to complete the aliyot form in the weeks prior to the Call Up. Contact the office for a copy of the aliyot form.